rogers, fred rogers, who said his mom had taught him to always look for the helpers out of tragedy, always look because you'll find the helpers there. don't look at the tragedy, look at the people who ran towards those people. >> that's right. i think we also say, you know, it's a fact that it didn't happen to me. that's means i can hug my children a little tighter now, i can be closer to my parents. i was in ohio this last weekend with my own family, with my parents and brothers and sisters, and that sense of, you know what? life is precious, and i don't understand why god allows some of these terrible things to happen, but i do thank god for the lift of life and the gift of the people that i love very much who are close to me now. >> alisyn: that's great point and it's incumbent on all of us to reach out to people who may be sad or feeling like loners. i felt this way after newtown also, people who are ostracized or feel they are loners, even if it's just us with awareness noticing them, that they might be doing something or reaching out to them. we need to do that. >> that's great point